Failure - It's Okay
It’s
okay to fail. Say it with me. It’s. okay.
To. fail.
Shocking
news, isn’t it? But it’s true. It’s fine to fail. It doesn’t mean you’re a
failure. It doesn’t mean the world will end. On the contrary. The world will be
fine. You will be fine. In fact, you will be better than fine. You’ll be
stronger. You’ll be wiser. You’ll be braver. It might feel like it right now. It might not
feel like it tomorrow or the next day. With time, you will realize you did the
right thing – for you. Don’t worry if some days you wonder the what if’s. What if I stuck with it? What if I finished?
What if I’d chosen differently? What if I made the wrong choice? That’s
okay. It’s okay to wonder. It’s only natural. It’s only human.
So
yes, it is okay to fail. Those words come easy. The reality is that it’s much
harder to fail than to succeed. You’ve made a choice. Now you have to stick
with it. Now you wonder if it’s the right
one. Sometimes the choice feels perfect. A weight’s been lifted and you’re
happier than you’ve been in a long time. Everything
is going to be okay. I can do this. Sometimes the choice feels like the
worst decision you could’ve ever made. Grief and fear brings tears to your
eyes. I am a failure. I’ve let everyone
down.
People
who love you and are truly your friend will not think any less of you for
choosing to fail. Your friends and family love you. They support you. They want
you happy. They want what is best for you.
This is your life. You only have one. Make the most of it. Love it. Respect it.
Respect yourself. Love yourself. Love the world.
But
whatever you do – don’t kill
yourself. Suicide is not the answer.
Don’t hurt yourself. There are and will be people who would miss you if you
left this world. Your pets (if you have any) would always wonder what happened.
You would miss out on so much. You’d miss out on seeing new movies, music,
television shows, games, etcetera. You’d never read another book. You’d never again
get to taste cake or a grilled cheese or tacos. You’d never see the stars or
feel the wind. So, no, don’t give up on life. That is not the point of this piece.
If you are feeling low, talk to someone.
I
speak from experience. For the year and a half I’ve been attending nursing
school. I loved it. I wanted it. I wanted to eventually become a surgical nurse
or a family nurse practitioner with a focus on geriatrics. At least I thought I
did. The new semester started last month and the classes weren’t what I
expected. They focused less on healing and more on logistics. The information shook me to the core.
This was misery. I
spiraled into a deep dismay. What I was learning wasn’t me and it would never
be me. I wept for hours almost every night. I had a migraine almost every day
for a month. I’d lost myself - I didn’t feel like myself. I’d lost my spark –
my sparkle. I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t fathom spending 14 hours a day on
assignments, never to catch up. I couldn’t fathom spending the rest of my life having
exams – I suck at exams.
So I made one of the hardest decisions of my
life. I quit. I gave up. I could not do it. This was not me. It would never be
me. So I decided to fail. There was much deliberation and tears, but the moment
I sent an email to my advisor I felt lighter than I had in a month. I knew I did
the right thing.
Part
of me wonders if I made the right choice. Part of me wonders what would’ve
happened if I’d stuck with it until December 2020 (when I was supposed to
graduate). Part of me wonders if I have disappointed my friends and family.
Part of me is disappointed. But, I know it’s going to be okay. I know I did the
right thing by failing.
It’s
okay to fail.
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